15 Important Choices To Make In Life | alux [texts]

Life is filed with cross roads with moments where you decide who you want to become and which direction you want your life to take. All these moments are crucial and forming the person we end up being and the kind of life we end up living. The goal of this piece is to put you face to face with some of the decisions you'll have to make before you force to do so. Having the wisdom to think about these topics beforehand gives you an incredible unfair advantage in life, the type of advantage the older generation wish they had access to back when day were starting up. You're lucky like that. We want you to take notes go down this list and take time to answer each question for yourself the more details you can provide in your answers the better understanding you'll have of the person you wish to become. You are the sum of all the choices you'll make in your life, maybe  it's time to start thinking about these things statistically in order to get you to where you want to be. With all that said here are 15 incredibly important choices you'll have to make in life.

1. Would you rather deal with failure or the regret of not trying at all

We're all born with potential then we get shaped by our family our education by the religion and the values that are instilled with in us this moment. This molds people in different ways, some culture encourage risk taking while others are more conservative. The choice you'll have to make is what are you most scared of: the failure or regret. Failure is not something to joke around with because it can bring public humiliation, it can have repercussion on your livelihood and you only get to fail so many times before you're unable to play the game anymore but beyond failure is success and you can't get a success if you're unable to face the risk of failure. Something we want you to think about is this: failure is temporary but regret is permanent. You can always rise up after failure learn from it use it as a stepping stone to get yourself closer to success. But regret, regret is something that will eat you from within. You carry it until the very last day of your life. Which burden do you wish to carry?

2. Will you live the life you want or the life your parents want

We have to include this one because we are tired of hearing about some people decide the fade of others making them miserable and unhappy. Every person should choose the life they wish to live. Learn from people whom you respect but don't  let anyone dictate your life because its not their life to live. Why the hell does it matters what your uncle thinks your life should be like why does it matter what that low age teacher thinks your major should be.

"Parents would gladly scarifies happiness and fulfillment for the security of their children without realizing just how much damage they  may be doing."

You'll die, you only get to do this once, might as well give it a shot at making it what you want it to be. There's this quote by franking Jackberg we always go on this particular issue. It goes like this:

"If you end up with a boring miserable life

because you listen to your mom, your dad, your teacher, your priest

or some guy on television telling you how to do your shit

then you deserve it "

3. Would you rather spend your time growing or being entertained

This is a big choice you'll have to make every single day; what are you going to spend your time on today? Do you wish to be entertained or do you wish to become more then you already are? This is important, no matter what you choose to do each day, do it deliberately. There's nothing wring choosing to be entertained as long as you know what you're doing  and are willing to live with the outcome. Just the simple distinction of knowing what these options is enough to aid you in improving your life. Ordinary people love entertainment extra-ordinary people love education. This is something that we've been struggling with for a while in the west something incredibly wired is happening to the masses.

"Celebrities and athletes are seen as people of importance and value. Because the have money, people worship them for their success. Life is build by builders, by scientists, by doctors, by farmers... never in your life will you need a TV star, a football player or any form of media personality for anything that's of actual value."

Maybe it's time to got our priorities straight when it comes to who you attribute values to.

4. Would you rather enjoy the present or secure the future

Yet another difficult choice to make. The temptation of living in the moment is so big it's almost impossible not to give in. And there are many times in life when you should give in. But once again you need to do it deliberately, always consider the future expense your paying.

"In life your are always trading with the future."

It's up to you to decide what kind of trades you want to make and what kind of ratio you want to maintain. If you only invest in the present you'll find that the future isn't looking that bright. But postpone satisfaction until you very old and you don't get you enjoy it but there are ways to do both and win at this trade game.

"Do what they're not willing to do it now. So you can enjoy the things they can't tomorrow."

5. Do you want to work for money or have money work for you

It was necessary that we talk about money when it comes to choices. Basically there are two kinds of people out there. One: some people who work for others. Two: some people who hire others to work for them. You can be happy and fulfilled in both situations; the first one comes with security and consistency. While the second one comes with a lot more stress and higher rewards. It all boils down to what kinds of expectations you have for your life, truth be told:

"nobody got rich at working to 9 to 5." 

It's one of those choices that will define your work schedule, your relationships, your free time and because of it your entire life takes a different direction. Everyone wants to be rich but not everyone is willing to work and scarifies as much as rich people do. Recommended book 
"The Millionaire Fast-lane: Crack the Code to Wealth and Live Rich for a Lifetime!"
by M. J. DeMarco.

6. Do you want to be surrounded by winners or losers

Repeat after us "you are the average of the five persons you spend most of your time with". If your friends are poor, lazy and unfulfilled guess who is going to join them. Your inner circle has such a radical impact on a life you live you only get you realize it once you escape it. The moment you disconnect and can focus on your growth you'll start understanding just how unmotivated and boring your life really is. This works the other way around as well. If you are accepted by the group of like-minded people who are not afraid to fail who are open to learning and investing in themselves. These people will spark something in you, you are not be envy their success it will inspire you to be better to do more. At the end it's a choice you have to make. When you think of you in you group do you see yourself as winning or doing the same things you've done for the past 10 years.

7. Would you rather be tired or broke 

Everything you do in your life would be balanced between these two options: are you willing to learn and work for it or can you live without it. It being whatever you desire in life from successful business to your dream body to the social group and the status you aspire to be part of it's all a matter of effort.

"Nobody's gonna come at your door and offer the life of your dreams on a plate."

Everything good requires you to scarifies something in return. The bigger the scarifies the bigger the return. That's why both Anos and Abraham were put in the position to scarifies the thing they hold most valuable in order to obtain something that makes a difference. Want some cold heart motivational truth:

"If you want something and don't have, you don't want it enough!"

 Take a moment to ponder this quote until it becomes a part of who you are.

8. Do you want to stay in the city you were born or move somewhere else

The truth is your location is one of the factors with the highest impact on your journey towards success. Although these days you can achieve success from anywhere in the world. The right location will greatly accelerate your journey and improves your odds of success. We've received plenty of messages in this very community that have decided take the leaf and relocate. It's very likely you'll see people like Robert Wealth and Haya Akhmed. Who made this a priority. Ahmed moved on to the other side of the world to the Canada in order to pursue a better life after realizing it will take a lot longer to get it in his home country. And Robert now runs his business all over the United States. These are just two of the many community members who made big changes in their location to alter their odds of success.

"everything worthwhile happens outside your comfort zone, sometimes, this comfort zone is quite literally the city you're currently in!"

9. Do you want to be the driver or the passenger in life

Once again you've faced with this existential dilemma. There are two ways to live your life one: "like everything is pre-written in your destiny". And you're just floating on a boat carried wherever the river takes you. Or two: "the world is chaos filled with unlimited potential." Nothing is set in stone and you are the writing every page. Depending on this choice and your view of life; things get more or less complicated. If you picked the first one, there's no need to struggle or push yourself. For your destiny, has been already been picked out at your birth. The second one has it's downside as well because if your life is terrible you're only person to blame, you take complete ownership of it: the good and the bad. There's actually a great book called "Extreme Ownership" by Jocko Willink that covers this topic perfectly. When life is happening to you, you need to make a call. Are you going to  shape the outcome yourself or are you willing to let the dice roll and see how they fall.

10. Would you rather risk it all or play it safe

We found there are different character traits that influence the attitude one has towards life. Some people are calculated and never tried to expose themselves to risk while others embrace it. Sometimes to their own detriment both choose to take action, both want to end up at the same destination which is usually happiness, personal fulfillment and financial success. What's different thought about these two is the road they take the higher the risk the shorter the distance to the destination, but don't imagine it's going to be an easy road. On the other hand there is this beaten path the one others have walked on before you and got to exactly the place you want to be. If you're smart about it you'll study these people and prepare for the journey beforehand. Based on their experience, their struggles and difficulties you might even find people who took the risky path and learn from them. Who you choose to mirror is up to you. Depending on where you want to end up in life, the most important part is to make the choice of starting the journey. We know hundreds of people who say they want to entrepreneurs and start businesses with dreams and goals. And all they do is read books and go to conferences never taking any action they are called wannapreneurs. They are the folks who are enamored with desires but always make excuses when it comes to the first step. Wake up, you don't need to see the entire road to take the first step. It's mind blowing to us today's technology that people are not even trying things. There's never been a time when it's easier to start an online store for example.

11. Are you ready to have children or is it just something everybody around you is doing

There comes a point in you journey when you start thinking about kids. It's that wiered period between 25 and 30 when the majority of your friends are having children. And there's that wired pressure from society to follow the same path. Here's where we stand on this issue:

"do not bring a child in this world if you're not ready to be a parent".

At the same time if you do want kids don't wait that long either because the gap in age will even make it difficult to connect with him/her later on. Mainly because of the age gap and difference in generations if you have your first child at the age of 32 which is completely acceptable and normal these days. By the time they turn 18 you're 50, this kid will grow up with VR technology embedded in their contact lenses connected to the cloud since they're born. Spending time in virtual world with their friends, you're going to be just an old person. Trying to tell them about the time you installed snap-chat and couldn't figure out how to use the interface.

12. Will you ignore the problem or deal with it

The monster under the bed the dragon hiding in the closet and the elephant in the room we found you should never post pond dealing with the problem if you have the ability to fix it right now now matter how uncomfortable it might be. The more you ignore it the bigger it grows and the more damage it can cause. Be frank about it and deal with it. People wish that if they ignore it maybe the problem will just go away, but it doesn't.

"Ignorance is expensive. "

If you ignore the cavity in your teeth you will soon have to pay for an implant. Don't pay your bills on time pay the penalties as well.

"Ignorance demands interest."

And speaking of expensive things.

13. Is the person you're with, the life partner you need

Guess what, statistical speaking, nope, i know what you're thinking your case is different you're special but you know why we love numbers so damn much it's because they don't care about your feelings, they don't care about your delusions, numbers don't lie. And here's what the numbers say: divorce numbers are on the rise and fewer people are getting married. Statically speaking the average marriage in United States only last 8.2 years with a national divorce rate of 41%. Things are pretty similar in the rest of the developed world as well. With 35% being widely accepted as fair ratio globally. Which means one in three marriages will statistically will end up in divorce. The partner you have along side of you will shape the direction you're heading in. Think of you two in a boat. Each holding a paddle. If you two aren't in sync you're not moving forward.

14. Do you want to serve yourself or serve others

Here's a moral dilemma for you: what drives your existence. When you're on your death bed and it's time for you to leave this world:

"did you take more than you gave?"

What are you leaving behind, how many lives did you change, how many people are better off because you happen to come into existence. We've pondered about this question quite a lot. And here's what we found: it isn't a simple yes or no answer it's actually a mix of both. The first half of your life serve yourself and do it as well as you can become the most valuable version of yourself you can become, grow, evolve and be as successful as you can be. Then in the second half of your life share that wealth, that knowledge with as many people as you can. This doesn't mean giving your wealth away to charity. Although there is a case to be made with a giving pledge many billionaires have joined.

" Winning is about the positive change you can have in this world."

15. Are you living or just surviving

It sterns us to see people going through life without enjoying the beauty and pleasures available. Life is not just about paying bills dieting and then dying.

We did our best to showcase  the most incredible aspects of what being alive is. If you go through this entire list of choices and face them truthfully, you'll realize just how much of your life is under your control. Just by the virtue of reading this post alone you have access to the tools and knowledge to change your life for the better, to start living. Go through this list again and figure out the choices you've made that are holding you back and make it a priority for you  to start correcting them. 
"The best time to start was yesterday, the second best time is right now!"

BONUS 16: What are you going to do after this post ends

None of this advice will work unless you work on yourself. When you are sitting alone in your room focusing on the things that you're lacking in life. You have the power to change them, maybe not remove them completely from your life but get life to be less shity then it already is. 

Start small, start with the choices on this list and make the smallest progress you can today then do it again tomorrow. Do this enough times and you'll see that life starts to be a lot better more enjoyable and more rewarding.

Thanks for reading!